How organized are you? (1)
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How organized are you? (1)
To either become successful in 2020 and beyond or increase your level of success, what I want to share with you at this moment is very vital and non-negotiable. You cannot do without it, on the condition that you truly either want to become successful or increase your level of success in the coming year and beyond. To start with, you will need to answer these following thought-provoking questions: Does it often take you more than 10 minutes to unearth a particular letter, bill, report or other paper from your files (or piles of paper on your desk)?
Also, are there papers on your desk, other than reference materials, that you haven’t looked through for a week or more? Has your electricity or another utility ever been turned off because you forgot to pay the bill? Within the last two months, have you forgotten any scheduled appointment, anniversary, or specific date you wanted to acknowledge? Do magazine and newspapers pile up unread?
Do you frequently procrastinate so long on a work assignment that it becomes emergency or panic situation? Has anything ever been misplaced in your home or office for longer than two months? Do you often misplace door keys, glasses, gloves, handbag, briefcase, or other “regular”? Is your definition of “organized space” is to fit as many objects as you can into a limited area? Do things amass in corners of closets, or on the floor, because you cannot decide where to put them? Lastly, do you want to get organized, but everything is in such a mess that you do not even know where to start? If your answer is yes to some of the asked questions, then you are the reason for penning this article. This piece of writing is going to help you to become more organized, and in due course help you to become more productive.
The truth is; your innate capacity to organize is powerful indeed, but for a variety of complex reasons that instinctive capability was short-circuited. The causes are primarily psychological, stemming from childhood; not to mention the constant challenge of coping with the mechanics of a highly sophisticated, complex world that our grandparents never knew.
Kindly understand that you are capable of setting your own life in order. Your inner drives toward order and clarity are much more powerful than the forces of chaos. Consider, for example, a major traffic circle and the experience of crossing it on foot or in a car. In your intrepid passage from one side to the other, whether as pedestrian or driver, you are spontaneously organizing a good deal of complex information: the velocity of the cars, their different angles of approach; their interrelationships with one another and with you. Managing this intricate situation signifies that you are highly successful at processing an assortment of information into a pattern that makes sense; the basic definition of organization.
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Given the premise that we are all born with the inherent capacity to organize, what happened? I believe that many people get trapped in a sort of time warp in which they live out their present lives responding to forces that were in operation many years ago. The majority of people who are consistently (as opposed to only occasionally) troubled by the issue of order and disorder and by the logistics of managing their lives, are still, as adults, often living out guilty defiance of a childhood authority—usually a parent.
The process occurs in roughly the following way: an authority figure teaches a very young child that there is a way things “ought” to be. There is a “right” way to do things, and a “good” person is “disciplined” and “orderly.” This attitude toward life further affects the child when, as it usually happens, the question of his or her own room becomes an issue. The constant refrain “Kola, clean up your room” becomes as maddening as fingernails scratching a blackboard. The child interprets this invasion of territory as an attack on his identity and autonomy. Sometimes, this sense of assault is nothing more than imagination, but in many cases the child correctly senses a parent’s need to control.
At some point, defiance begins. The young person digs in his heels and mentally says, “I won’t. I won’t be orderly or disciplined.” So he proceeds to make life chaotic in the belief that order means entrapment or loss of identity, and therefore disorder means freedom and affirmation of the self. There is another factor: guilt. As children or adolescents few people can defy their parents with a clear conscience. So even while one part of the personality may be affirming itself through defiance, the other part is saying. “I must be wrong, I must be bad.”
The resulting burden exacts a heavy cost. A person moves from the imprisonment of someone’s rules to the imprisonment of a continuing functional disorder and, even more disheartening, to the deeper entrapment of a conflict in his or her own mind. In order to avoid this dilemma, people frequently assume conscious styles of living which seem to justify disorderliness.
One of these styles is “busy, busy, busy.” Using this technique, a person becomes so frantically active with so many responsibilities, activities, problems and excursions, that there just isn’t a moment to pull it all together. Another style, not quite so widespread, is “free spirit.” The “free spirit” is usually vaguely “artistic” or “creative,” and thinks of organizing as the dullest possible activity for a person engaged in higher pursuits.
The most characteristic way people cope with the emotional bind of the order-versus-disorder conflict is by developing the attitude of “compliance/defiance.”Many folks, for example, desperately want to be “right.” They yearn to have their lives organized the way they “ought to be.” That is compliance—the conscious acceptance of parental standards. Accordingly, they set specific goals of an exaggerated precision that would shame a computer scientist. Then, because these goals are unrealistic and often irrelevant to any genuine practical need, the person says, “To hell with it. I can’t do it and I won’t.” That is defiance…Till I come your way again next Monday to further show you how you can become either organized or more organized, see you where seasoned leaders are found!
How organized are you? (1)
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